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Words by Lucy Sheridan
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According to the dictionary, comparison is ‘a consideration or estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people.’ at sounds fairly innocuous, doesn’t it? Where we start running into trouble is when this practice of the above, and the meaning we attach to it, becomes a habit that adversely affects our life. 

Cast you mind over these three women: Martha Stewart, Victoria Beckham and our club’s namesake, Madeleine Albright. What’s the common factor? Hugely successful career pivots that saw Stewart switch from being a stockbroker to setting up a catering business in her 30s, Beckham hanging up her mic for a career in luxury fashion and Albright becoming a diplomat in her 40s, following an early career as a journalist. While 50 years ago workers would likely be in a job for life, today everything is more uid. According to a recent study by InHerSight, an online platform that supports women at work, a massive 73% of American women are interested in changing careers. It’s not just the US: a separate study by the nancial services company Investec found that half of Brits were planning to change career in the next ve years. Liz Ward, founder of Slick Pivot, who describes herself as the UK’s rst “pivot coach”, says a pivot is a “mindset”. “It involves looking at what is going well and where you’re experiencing areas of tension, which is where you start looking to make changes, be they professional or personal.”

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According to the dictionary, comparison is ‘a consideration or estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people.’ at sounds fairly innocuous, doesn’t it? Where we start running into trouble is when this practice of the above, and the meaning we attach to it, becomes a habit that adversely affects our life. 

Cast you mind over these three women: Martha Stewart, Victoria Beckham and our club’s namesake, Madeleine Albright. What’s the common factor? Hugely successful career pivots that saw Stewart switch from being a stockbroker to setting up a catering business in her 30s, Beckham hanging up her mic for a career in luxury fashion and Albright becoming a diplomat in her 40s, following an early career as a journalist. While 50 years ago workers would likely be in a job for life, today everything is more uid. According to a recent study by InHerSight, an online platform that supports women at work, a massive 73% of American women are interested in changing careers. It’s not just the US: a separate study by the nancial services company Investec found that half of Brits were planning to change career in the next ve years. Liz Ward, founder of Slick Pivot, who describes herself as the UK’s rst “pivot coach”, says a pivot is a “mindset”. “It involves looking at what is going well and where you’re experiencing areas of tension, which is where you start looking to make changes, be they professional or personal.”

Reclaim your right to be interesting

You have permission to be interested in your own life. e more time you spend on mundane domestic tasks, the less time you have to pursue what makes you uniquely you. Disconnection like this only leads to resentment.

The science shows that perceived fairness in a relationship is more important than actual fairness. So stop striving for 50:50 – all that does is lead to score-keeping. Start from where you are now and work towards a place you feel is fair for you in terms of getting your time back.

Establish your values and standards

Many women fear handing over responsibility because they feel the work won’t be done to their exacting standards. Address this by starting conversations with why these standards matter to you and have valued conversation about it. When your partner understands why its so important to you that things been done a certain way, you can work together to establish what is reasonable. en it’s time to step away and let them take ownership.

Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky (G.P Putnam’s Sons) is out now

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